Navigating the Holidays: Tips for Surrogates and Intended Parents

Surrogacy is a deeply meaningful journey, but it can become even more complex during the holidays. Whether you’re a surrogate balancing family traditions while supporting the intended parents' (IPs) excitement, or an IP eager to include your surrogate in your holiday celebrations, communication and compassion are key. 

At Great Beginnings Surrogacy Services in San Diego, California, Dr. Samuel Wood and our caring team are here to help you navigate this special season. With thoughtful planning and open dialogue, both surrogates and IPs can enjoy a holiday season filled with gratitude and connection.

Managing the emotions: Surrogates and IPs

The holidays often bring a mix of emotions: joy, anticipation, stress, and sometimes sadness. For surrogates and IPs, these feelings can intensify by the unique circumstances of the shared journey. 

Surrogates may feel torn between maintaining their own holiday traditions and ensuring the IPs feel included and supported. Meanwhile, IPs might feel overwhelming gratitude and excitement, yet also a sense of distance from the pregnancy itself.

Recognizing these emotions and acknowledging how each party might feel can help prevent misunderstandings and unmet expectations. 

Communication is key

The foundation for navigating the holidays smoothly during surrogacy is clear communication. Ideally, expectations around communication should have been discussed during the contract phase. While that may seem formal, having a framework in writing makes it easier for everyone to know where they stand. 

Be open and honest about your holiday expectations. Share your favorite traditions and explain which celebrations are especially meaningful to you. Discuss how you might include each other, while also setting healthy boundaries to allow for personal family time. 

Agreeing on how and when to stay in touch during the holidays helps ensure both parties feel connected and respected. 

Managing holiday stress

The holidays are stressful under any circumstances, and that’s especially true during the surrogacy journey.  

Stress management for surrogates

Surrogates need to prioritize self-care to support their well-being and the baby’s health. Make time for rest, eat balanced meals, stay active, and don’t overcommit.  

Stress management for IPs

For IPs, the holidays are a good time to practice patience and gratitude. Focus on the bigger picture and the incredible gift your surrogate is giving you. Mindfulness and reflection help you stay centered and appreciative of the season for how your life will change in the upcoming year.

Self-care is essential for both sides to stay grounded, emotionally balanced, and connected to the joy of the journey. 

Including each other in meaningful ways

Small gestures can go a long way in nurturing the body between surrogates and IPs. Consider setting up short virtual visits before each holiday to check in and share updates. Exchange heartfelt cards or small keepsakes such as a framed ultrasound image or holiday ornament marking the year and your journey together.

These thoughtful touches help create shared memories while respecting each other’s personal traditions. 

Most importantly, focus on gratitude and mutual respect. The holidays are the perfect time to reflect on how far you’ve come together and to look forward with excitement to the next chapter. 

If you’re an IP hoping to start to grow your family, or a woman considering becoming a surrogate, our team can answer your questions and guide you every step of the way.

Call us today to learn more about building families through surrogacy.